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Couples & The Enneagram

Using the Enneagram to improve communication, conflict resolution, connection and understand common relationship patterns.

Hi. I’m Michelle Joy

Michelle Joy, LMFT, is a couples therapist, coach, and certified Enneagram teacher. She created The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™, a pioneering approach that transforms conflict into connection by blending the Enneagram with cutting-edge developmental methods.

Services for Therapists & Couples

Book

The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™ shows couples how to transform conflict, deepen connection, and move toward wholeness—not by erasing difference, but by learning how to engage with it consciously

Explore your Enneagram

This assessment is designed to help you discover your dominant Enneagram Type based on your experiences in intimate relationships. Your results will include your primary type, your runner-up types, and practical tips for growing and thriving.

Enneagram Relationships Lab Monthly Membership

The Enneagram Relationships Lab is a monthly subscription group that turns insight into real-world transformation with tools designed for your type relationship.

Consultations for Professionals

Working with couples can be one of the most rewarding—and most challenging—paths in our field. When conflict patterns run deep, even seasoned therapists and coaches can feel stuck or unsure how to help partners move forward.

Coaching for Couples

Transform conflict into connection. Grow closer by understanding your type. Most couples think their challenges come from being “too different.” But the truth is—it’s not your differences that create distance, it’s how you manage them.

Workshops for Professionals

Interactive workshops for therapists, coaches, and helping professionals on blending the Enneagram with developmental methods — offering practical tools to navigate conflict and transform couples work. This integration is often the missing link that helps partners move from stuck patterns into real connection. 

New to the Enneagram?

Explore your type with the Couples & The Enneagram Typing Assessment (CETA)— the only test designed to indicate your type through the lens of relationship patterns, communication, and connection.

Bring Michelle to Your Audience

Michelle has shared her expertise with organizations including: 

My book:
The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™

We often think our struggles come from our differences. In truth, differences are not the problem—they are the source of vitality, creativity, and growth in a relationship. The real challenge is how we manage those differences.

 

The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™ shows couples how to transform conflict, deepen connection, and move toward wholeness—not by erasing difference, but by learning how to engage with it consciously.

Highlights

Enneagram Summit for the Helping Profession

An annual online gathering where therapists, coaches, and growth-oriented professionals explore how the Enneagram can deepen their work. Featuring world-class teachers, thought-provoking conversations, and practical tools, the Summit equips helping professionals to integrate Enneagram wisdom into therapy, coaching, and organizational settings. NEXT SUMMIT: May 18th-22nd, 2026

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Other Resources

Podcast

Enjoy Michelle’s Podcast all about Couples Relationships and the Enneagram. Click here to tune in!

Downloadable Enneagram Audio

Would you like quick information on how the 9 Types present in relationships, both strengths as well as challenges? Click here!

The Enneagram and Development for Couples Certification Program

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