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Couples & The Enneagram

Using the Enneagram to improve communication, conflict resolution, connection and understand common relationship patterns.

Hi. I’m Michelle Joy

Michelle JoyMFT is a couples’ therapist and a certified Enneagram Teacher. She is a leading expert in combining the Enneagram to help couples’ relationships with an approach she founded, called “The Developmental Enneagram for Couples” designed to help couples with communication, conflict resolution and connection.

Services for Therapists & Couples

Book

The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™ shows couples how to transform conflict, deepen connection, and move toward wholeness—not by erasing difference, but by learning how to engage with it consciously

CERI Quiz

This inventory is designed to help you discover your dominant Enneagram Type based on your experiences in romantic relationships.
Your results will include your primary type, your runner-up types, and practical tips for growing and thriving.

Enneagram Relationships Lab Monthly Membership

The Enneagram Relationships Lab is a monthly subscription group that turns insight into real-world transformation with tools designed for your type relationship.

The Developmental Enneagram for Couples

Transform conflict into connection. Grow closer by understanding your type. Most couples think their challenges come from being “too different.”
But the truth is—it’s not your differences that create distance, it’s how you manage them.

Coaching for Couples

Bring the Enneagram + Differentiation into your couples work with confidence. Working with couples can be one of the most rewarding—and most challenging—paths in our field.
When conflict patterns run deep, even seasoned therapists and coaches can feel stuck or unsure how to help partners move forward.

Workshops for Professionals

***Whether you are newer to the Enneagram or have been an avid student for decades, you will learn how to use the Enneagram system with developmental methods to effectively help your couples***

Contemplation + Enneagram = Global Transformation

Michelle has been specializing in helping couples (based in Silicon Valley, CA) for nearly as long as she has been studying the Enneagram – almost 25 years.  She also leads Enneagram workshops, communication and premarital workshops for couples, coaching or therapy for couples and trainings for therapists on how to help more couples.

She has presented her framework to several recent IEA conferences, and has been a guest speaker for a variety of webinars,  global virtual programs, podcasts, and is hosting a 2024 Virtual Enneagram Summit designed for people in the helping profession.

Inspiring, Practical, Transformational

Michelle Joy, MA, MFT, is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Enneagram Teacher, and creator of the Developmental Enneagram for Couples™. For over 20 years, she has helped couples move beyond surface-level fixes into deeper connection, emotional safety, and growth.

 

She is a sought-after speaker, trainer, and summit host known for weaving psychology, spirituality, and the Enneagram into talks that are both heartfelt and highly practical.

My book:
The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™

We often think our struggles come from our differences. In truth, differences are not the problem—they are the source of vitality, creativity, and growth in a relationship. The real challenge is how we manage those differences.

 

The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™ shows couples how to transform conflict, deepen connection, and move toward wholeness—not by erasing difference, but by learning how to engage with it consciously.

Highlights

Enneagram Summit for the Helping Profession

We often think our struggles come from our differences. In truth, differences are not the problem—they are the source of vitality, creativity,  The Developmental Enneagram for Couples™ shows couples how to transform conflict, deepen connection, and move toward wholeness—not by erasing difference, but by learning how to engage with it consciously.

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Other Resources

Podcast

Enjoy Michelle’s Podcast all about Couples Relationships and the Enneagram. Click here to tune in!

Downloadable Enneagram Audio

Would you like quick information on how the 9 Types present in relationships, both strengths as well as challenges? Click here!

The Enneagram and Development for Couples Certification Program

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