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Couples And The Enneagram Typing Assessment (CETA)^™

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Instructions

1. Read each statement carefully and respond based on how it typically applies to you.

2. For each statement, choose:

Often True – This resonates strongly and describes you in most relationships.
Sometimes True – This is sometimes true for you, depending on the situation.
Hardly Ever True – This rarely or never applies to you.

3. Answer spontaneously — go with your first reaction rather than overthinking.

4. Complete all 54 questions for the most accurate results.

Important Notes

There are no right or wrong answers — this is about patterns, not perfection.
Try to answer based on your typical experience in intimate relationships, not only your current one.
Your results are private and will be shared only with you.
At the end, you will be invited to enter your email so we can send you your full results and growth tips.

When you’re ready, please begin:

1. I hold back emotional honesty at times because I fear being seen as flawed or defective.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

2. I often give more than I can sustain, hoping my partner will give back without me needing to ask.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

3. When my partner expresses intense emotions, I might seem calm, but inside I’m tuning out to protect my peace.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

4. I avoid revisiting past issues because I want to keep things light, optimistic, and moving forward.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

5. It’s hard to share my emotional struggles because I feel like I should already be living up to higher standards or doing better*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

6. When I feel hurt, I express anger instead of showing vulnerability.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

7. I rarely ask my partner for help because I don’t want to feel dependent or vulnerable.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

8. I’m easygoing about most things, but when I do care, it can be hard to advocate for myself because I don’t want to upset my partner.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Harly Ever True

9. I hold back feelings that might make me seem less impressive or competent.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

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Section One Values

10. I don’t initiate certain topics to respect my partner’s space and avoid intruding.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

11. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, I might lash out in emotional intensity or withdraw in shame.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

12. When my partner disagrees with me, I take it as a sign they might not have my back.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

13. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, my inner critic tells me I’ve done something wrong or that I am just bad.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

14. When I partner brings up a relationship issue, I jump to positivity or rush the conversation before really hearing them out.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

15. I struggle to express my desires openly and often retreat to protect my energy.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

16. If my efforts go unnoticed, I feel unappreciated — but I rarely say this directly.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

17. I wait to share my thoughts on a relationship topic until I’ve fully understood and analyzed them.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

18. If I don’t feel mirrored or understood by my partner, I can lose my grounding in my own truth.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

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Section Two Values

19. I hesitate with sharing my truth – once it’s said, you can’t take it back.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

20. When I partner brings up a relationship issue, I might freeze up — I don’t know what to say in the moment.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

21. When my partner’s needs interrupt my momentum, it’s hard to slow down and listen — it feels like they’re slowing me down or pulling me off-track.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

22. I tend to intellectualize what my partner is feeling rather than staying emotionally present with them.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

23. I second-guess my needs and instincts, struggling to trust myself without my partner’s guidance or approval.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

24. I sometimes experience my partner’s requests as demands, and I resist them by stalling or procrastinating.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

25. I often go along with my partner’s preferences because it feels easier than creating conflict — even when it means ignoring what I want.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

26. Sometimes when I think I’m just being direct, my partner says I’m being demanding, pushy, or harsh.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

27. I struggle to stay with painful emotions in myself, preferring excitement or possibilities.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

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Section Three Values

28. My frustration with my partner often turns into resentment because I feel like they aren’t doing what’s right or responsible.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

29. When my partner pulls away or doesn’t respond the way I’d hoped, it stirs up a deep feeling that I’m being overlooked or that I don’t truly matter.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

30. Because I focus so much on being capable and successful, I often lose touch with my emotions — and don’t tend to share them with my partner.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

31. When I partner processes emotions slowly, I get impatient — I don’t want to “wallow.”*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

32. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, my first impulse is to push back rather than listen.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

33. I don’t express empathy naturally – it feels disingenuous or forced at times.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

34. I often wonder if my partner cares about my needs — especially when I’ve been focusing so much on theirs.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

35. I can delay making decisions with my partner because I’m unsure how to bring in my own voice.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

36. I don’t usually ask my partner how they would do things — I tend to assume my way is correct or common sense.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

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Section Four Values

37. I tend to put my partner’s needs first, and I feel guilty when I ask for mine.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

38. If I share personal struggles, I polish my words so I won’t look like I’m failing.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

39. I avoid raising tough topics so I don’t get stuck in heaviness.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

40. I can come across accusatory and heightened with my partner when my anxiety spikes.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

41. When my partner sets boundaries, I can see it as control versus understanding their feelings.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

42. When my partner shares something uncomfortable, I rationalize instead of staying present to their truth.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

43. When I try to express my needs, I often sound critical or use words like “should” or “ought to”*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

44. When I feel hurt, my emotions become so overwhelming that it’s hard to explain what I’m feeling.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

45. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, I often assume something is seriously wrong or that things are falling apart.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

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Section Five Values

46. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, I sometimes think: “How could you say that after everything I’ve done for you?”*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

47. If my partner isn’t meeting my need, a part of me assumes they don’t care.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

48. I tend to accuse or become suspicious when I notice inconsistency, instead of asking my partner with curiosity.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

49. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, I often feel like I’ve failed, making it hard to fully listen.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

50. In conflict, I struggle to listen to my partner before I feel fully understood myself.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

51. I get distracted from hard feelings with new ideas or activities.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

52. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, I sometimes avoid it and hope it will just go away.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

53. When my partner does things differently (even small tasks), I feel a strong urge to correct them because there’s a right way things should be done.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

54. What good does it do to just listen to my partner? If I think they’re off-base, I need to challenge it directly.*

Often True

Sometimes True

Hardly Ever True

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